07.09.2017 – Ps. Paul Brownback – Timeless Ten Pt. 7

 

This Sunday, July 9th, 2017, our guest speaker, Pastor Paul Brownback from The Abbey Church in Azel, TX, unpacked an amazing message in continuation to our Timeless Ten series here at The Bridge Church in Denton, TX.

Timeless Ten: “Affair-Proof” Your Relationships

“Do not commit adultery,” (Exodus 20: 14).

The definition of adultery can be explained as voluntary sexual intimacy between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband. In a better context, it could be defined as sexual intimacy outside of the bonds of covenant.

Our culture today has lost the understanding and value of Spiritual Covenant. A Covenant is a spiritual bond and union between individuals. It is a three-fold cord, of two humans and a spiritual being. God empowers, by giving grace, to the covenants that are made before Him.

The greatest source of sex mis-education in our culture is T.V. and movies. Very rarely on T.V. or film are sexual partners portrayed as husband and wife in a marriage relationship. In many films, there is a constant parade of seduction and suggestive sexual encounters. The image-makers surround it with laughter, music and sumptuous settings. It’s made to appear romantic, and exciting. But they brush away the deceit, betrayal and ugliness.

Sex outside marriage is seeking self-pleasure without the secure context of covenant commitment.

King David in the Bible is a classic example of this. He lusted after Bathsheba and within weeks his adultery had driven him to lie, scheme, plot and murder Bathsheba’s husband. David’s little indiscretion turned out to have vast repercussions.

Adultery, even when forgiven, leaves a scar.

“Can a man scoop fire into his lap and not be burned? So it is with the man who sleeps with another man’s wife,” (Proverbs 6 :27-29).

Playing with adultery is like playing with fire.

“Whoever commits adultery is an utter fool, for they destroy their own soul,” (Proverbs 6:32).

The betrayal of adultery causes deep wounds, shatters trust, and severs relationship. While marriage is about giving, adultery is about taking. Adultery denies love, degrades people, destroys families, defiles marriage, and defies God.

Jesus affirms this in scripture:

“God made them male and female. A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Since they are no longer two, but one, let no one separate them, for God has joined them together,” (Matthew 19:4-6).

Adultery invades the unity between two people, and God, in marriage.

You may be thinking, “I don’t need to hear this commandment. I haven’t committed adultery.” Adultery begins to play itself out on the stage of the imagination long before it occurs in real life.

“You have heard that it was said, do not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell,” (Matthew 5:27-29).

Jesus is saying, “Take Drastic Action.”

The problem is not in the eye, but in the heart. Jesus urges us to deal decisively and severely with radical spiritual surgery. Jesus called lust adultery in the heart, and if you encourage it with sexually stimulating films, books, magazines, or social settings, fantasy will turn into reality.

Here are four pointers to teach you how to affair-proof your marriage:

“An archaeologist is the best husband any woman can have. The older she gets, the more interested he is in her,” – Agatha Christie.

  1. Respect.
  2. Responsibility. 
  3. Romance.
  4. Resolve.
  5. Response. 

Love is built on the foundation of respect. 

  • Respect the Covenant of Marriage.
  • Respect your Partner.
  • Respect your own Weakness.

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers,” (1 Peter 3:7).

Here are some common vulnerabilities to both men and women when it comes to attending to each other:

  • Men are ego-driven. They want to be somebody’s hero as well as conquer a challenge and prove their inadequacies.
  • Women are security-driven. They want to hold somebody’s attention, and be somebody’s prize They want someone to prove their worth and value.

There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, for the simple reason that every marriage is the union of two imperfect people. A happy marriage is not so much about how compatible you are, but how you deal with your incompatibility.

The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together. Love is true, when you don’t see eye to eye, but can still walk hand in hand. Instead of attempting to alter one another, you need to understand one another.

Good Communication is hard work. It’s important that you spend time talking and listening to each other. There are five types of communication that can strengthen your marriage covenant:

  1. Small talk.
  2. Serious talk.
  3. Self talk.
  4. Soul talk.
  5. Sweet talk.

Here are the four hardest, and most important, statements to make in marriage:

  1. I was wrong.
  2. I am sorry.
  3. I don’t know.
  4.  I need help.

It’s important to use those four statements with each other, as they will build honesty in your Marriage.

“Each of you should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others, your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus,” (Philippians 2: 4–5).

Marriage and relationship problems are centered in selfishness and hard heartedness.

The question is not, “What’s in the marriage for me?”. It’s, “What has God anointed me to demonstrate of His character and nature in this marriage?”

 “When the Lord began to speak through Hosea, the Lord said to him, ‘Go, marry a promiscuous woman and have children with her, for like an adulterous wife this land is guilty of unfaithfulness to the Lord,’” (Hosea 1:2).

“The Lord said to me, ‘Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another man and is an adulteress. Love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they turn to other gods and love the sacred raisin cakes,” (Hosea 3:1).

The trouble with so many people who stand up for their rights, is that they fall down miserably on their responsibilities. Take responsibility.

If there was more courting in marriage, there would be fewer marriages in court.

Do you remember how tender and kind you two were to each other on dates when you began dating? You anticipated the date with excitement, and that’s the way you should be with each other when you are married.

“May you rejoice in the wife of your youth. May you ever be captivated by her love,” (Proverbs 5: 18–19).

There are several things that you should share with each other that are important between the two of you to flourish in your relationship:

  • Share adventures and experiences with each other. Go to new places, meet new people, share activities, and experience different cultures together.
  • Share victories with each other. Overcome threats and dangers together.
  • Share your serving together. Wether it is kingdom service, mission trips, church service, life groups, teaching or hosting something together.
  • Share secrets between each other. Have secret names for each other, have a secret language, verbal and non-verbal, share secret jokes with one another.
  • Share your fantasies with each other. Take turns planning date nights around your personal fantasies.

When you dated it was fun, make sure your marriage is fun.

A commitment is adherence to a decision that has already been made. Don’t wait to make the decision in the moment of temptation.

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? Guard yourself, remain loyal to your wife,” (Malachi 2:15).

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral,” (Hebrews 13:4).

Value your Marriage and prove your faithfulness to each other. Trying times are not the times to stop trying. In a marriage it is important to treat all disasters as incidents and none of the incidents as disasters.

The starting point is to admit we need God and His help because He created us and marriage. You may need restoration because things in your lives and marriages are broken and need to be fixed.

Are you in an adulterous relationship? End the relationship now. No more conversations, no more phone calls, no more meetings.

For about a year, King David tried to live with a guilty conscience. If he had admitted his adultery and repented straight away, the subsequent lies, and the murder of Bathsheba’s husband, would have been avoided.

 “When I kept things to myself, I felt sick deep inside me. I moaned all day long,”  (Psalm 32:3).

Do you need God’s forgiveness and healing for inappropriate relationships in the past?

Do you have addictions, like pornography, which need breaking?

Does your marriage need reviving?

Are you struggling with being single, a single parent, or being widowed?

Don’t make matters worse. Confession is better than cover-up. Repentance now, is better than revelations later.

 

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04.30.2017 – Ps. Jay Pike – Scandalous Grace Pt. 2

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This Sunday, April 30th, 2017, our guest speaker, Pastor Jay Pike from The Gate Church in OKC, unpacked an amazing message continuing our series Scandalous Grace here at The Bridge Church in Denton, Texas.

Finding Favor:

 “But Noah found favor with the Lord,” (Genesis 6:8, NLT)

Jesus had favor with God and favor with man. Favor with man brings the praise of men. If the praise of man leads to pride in you, it will cost you the favor of God. Favor with God brings persecution of man. If you can’t handle persecution from man, you shorten your time of favor.

If you focus on favor with man, you forfeit favor with God. If you focus on favor with God, you will always have favor with whatever man you need to fulfill God’s purpose.

Favor has to be found. You can grow in favor, and you can grow in grace, which can help you in your time of need. There is a grace for every season in your life. Your challenge is to find the grace for the season that you are in. There is grace for every assignment in your life. Your assignment is to find the grace for your present assignment.

You learn to follow presence more than you follow principles.

Here are three questions to consider:

  1. Where is God’s grace resting in this situation?
  2. Where is God’s grace operating in this conversation?
  3. Where is God’s grace moving in this person’s life?

Noah found favor with the Lord.

  1. Favor requires you to build in one season what you will need in a future season. Finding favor can make you look silly in the present, but look smart in the future.
  2. Favor reveals the timing for transition. In order to stay in favor from season to season, you have to pay attention to the dove. If you get your information from the dove, you will always know when it’s time to step into the next season.
  3. Favor releases the rain.

 “In the light of a king’s face there is life, and his favor is like clouds that bring the spring rain.” (Proverbs 16:15)

  • Rain moved Noah from stagnation to advancement.
  • Rain is a resource. Favor is always better than resources.
  • Rain transforms the territory.

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04.09.2017 – Bishop Tony Miller – 10th Anniversary Celebration

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This Sunday, April 9th, 2017, our guest speaker, Bishop Tony Miller from The Gate Church in Oklahoma City, gave an amazing message at The Bridge Church in Denton, TX in celebration of our 10 Year Anniversary.

10th Year Anniversary Celebration:

“Then Joshua rose early in the morning and they set out from Shittim. And they came to the Jordan, he and all the people of Israel, and lodged there before they passed over. At the end of three days the officers went through the camp and commanded the people, “As soon as you see the ark of the covenant of the LORD your God being carried by the Levitical priests, then you shall set out from your place and follow it. Yet there shall be a distance between you and it, about 2,000 cubitsa in length. Do not come near it, in order that you may know the way you shall go, for you have not passed this way before.” Then Joshua said to the people, “Consecrate yourselves, for tomorrow the LORD will do wonders among you.” (Joshua 3:1-5)

There are three things that The Lord wants to reintroduce to you in your life:

  1. God wants to reintroduce you to Him. There are things about God that you haven’t figured out yet, and when you step into a new season, God reveals Himself to you in ways you haven’t known before. He shows you a part of Him that you haven’t yet discovered.
  2. God wants to reintroduce you to your promise. You begin to recognize the many ways that God works His promises in your life. Those promises are bigger than you think they are.
  3. When God brings you to a divine moment where it is between you and Him, He reintroduces you to you. You find out things about you that you didn’t know. God will begin to show you things that only you are meant to deal with.

God can do something that blows your mind today, but when you wake up the next morning, He can do something to blow it even further. Only God can exceed Himself.

The further you walk with God, the more you see His intentionality. God never randomly does something. God is intentional with your life, and He sees what you can’t see because He’s trying to get you somewhere you’ve never been.

“After the death of Moses the servant of the Lord, the Lord said to Joshua the son of Nun, Moses’ assistant, “Moses my servant is dead. Now therefore arise, go over this Jordan, you and all this people, into the land that I am giving to them, to the people of Israel. Every place that the sole of your foot will tread upon I have given to you, just as I promised to Moses. From the wilderness and this Lebanon as far as the great river, the river Euphrates, all the land of the Hittites to the Great Sea toward the going down of the sun shall be your territory. No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life. Just as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you or forsake you. Be strong and courageous, for you shall cause this people to inherit the land that I swore to their fathers to give them. Only be strong and very courageous, being careful to do according to all the law that Moses my servant commanded you. Do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may have good success wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:1-7)

There are some things in your life, that if you hadn’t have buried them, then you wouldn’t have ended them. If God had not buried them, you would still be there trying to dig them up, and recreate them, and God keeps telling you that that day is over in your life, and He wants to change you. Today is a new day, and He’s got a brand new day for you!

Joshua was given an assignment to convince a group of people to move out of their content ways so that he could guide them and show them that God had something much more for them.

Here are four things that you can use to help you:

  1. Clarity. God will bring clarity to who you are meant to be, and where you are meant to go.
  2. Courage. You have to have the courage to go after God and what He is doing.
  3. Concentration. The demand of about what God is going to do in your life is going to demand concentration. 
  4. Consecration. Chose to be set a part for the purpose God gave you.

When ordinary people give themselves to a vision that is God born, many peoples lives will be changed.

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01.29.2017 – Ps. Jack Groblewski – The Household Hope

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This Sunday, January 29th, 2017, our guest speaker, Pastor Jack Groblewski from NC4 in Bethlehem, PA, continued our Over The Top series here at The Bridge Church in Denton, TX.

The Household Hope:

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love,” (1 Corinthians 13).

When you are going Over the Top the path becomes more important that your attitude going up. We tend to not think about the path going Over the Top. 

Hope is the most foundational aspect that leads to faith and love. Hope is the ground upon which you express love, and is also the opportunity for which we get to grow from strength to strength as you go Over the Top. 

Each of us who hope in God are the the hope for our families. The hope that you hold is critical for your family.

When God created the community, He created it in to a family. The church is the family of God.

“So that, if I am delayed, you will know how each one must conduct himself in God’s household, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and foundation of the truth,” (1 Timothy 3:15).

Hope is intergenerational more than faith. Hope is the ground for faith to work intergenerationally. The authority of the Lord stretches out to every family across the Earth.

What you do has in impact on future family generations. Your hope influences the divine order through your family across generations.

The measure of your families sufficiency is the measure of your family hope. It is the presence of hope in God that spells the difference as to the measure of how destructive or how redemptive a family is. The measure of your hope extends to your family.

Whereas, our faith doesn’t directly redeem the members of your family, God uses your hope as ground for your family to be saved. Family is always messy, even for redemptive families.

God placing children in the lineage of the redeemed is not a neutral act. Jesus found us before the foundation of the world.

Today is your day. Not only for you, but for the rest of your family.

“Redemptive families honor the family of God.” – Pastor Jack Groblewski

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