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07.30.2017 – Ps. Duane White – Timeless Ten Pt. 10

This Sunday, July 30th, 2017, Pastor Duane White ended our Timeless Ten series here at The Bridge Church in Denton, TX.

Timeless Ten: Finding Contentment

 

“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor,” (Exodus 20:17, NIV).

What is ContentmentContentment is defined as the state of being satisfied; or ease of mind.

Biblically you could say that contentment is the state of trusting what God has, and will, give you everything that you need, exactly when you need it; to fulfill His purposes over your life.

The opposite of contentment is coveting. What is covetingCoveting is to desire wrongfully, inordinately, or without due regard for the rights of others; to have an inordinate or wrongful desire.

Biblically, coveting can be seen as two things:

  • Craving something that is not rightfully yours.
  • Looking at what God has given to someone else, and believing He should have given it to you.

It is ultimately setting yourself up as God. It’s saying, “I know what I should have and when I should have it better than Daddy God does.”

Coveting, however, is like drinking salt water, the more you drink, the thirstier you become. God is not opposed to possessions, He is opposed to the worship of them.

Jesus talked a lot about money. Why? It may be because it is so important? No, it’s least important, but if you get it right, everything that really matters is easy. When you get it wrong, you will surely stumble over the big stuff.

Coveting is the motive behind why we break all the other commandments. We lie, steal, commit adultery and so on because we want what we don’t or can’t have.

Are you content? Most people are not.

Here are a few principles to finding true contentment in this crazy western world that is always craving more and shoving that craving down our throats:

  1. Have an attitude of gratitude, for what you already have.
  2. Recognize the limitations of wealth.
  3. Focus on people, not possessions.
  4. Be a giver.
  5. Find fulfillment in Jesus
  6. Look at the big “E”. Live in the light of eternity.

Being thankful for what I have now is the beginning point of finding contentment. We can’t trivialize God’s blessings down to material possessions, but we should be thankful for the things God gives us.

The problem with Discontentment is that it leaves us living in the someday syndrome. Someday I will be happy. Someday I will have joy. Someday I will be at peace.

The someday syndrome thinks of life in terms of when and then. When I get a bigger house, then I’ll be happy. When I get married, then  I won’t be lonely. When I have kids, then I will be fulfilled. When I get a new job, or a promotion, then I won’t have any stress or worry in my life.

We have to get out of the when and then thinking and get into the here and now thinking. I am here, and I am thankful for what I have now.

 

We can be content and have goals and ambition. Don’t let things have you. Contentment is not about the balance in your bank account, but the balance in your heart.

Don’t value money for more than it’s worth. The Bible says, those who love money, never have enough. We must keep a proper perspective on money. True contentment is not found in having everything we want, but in not wanting to have everything.

If money and wealth could buy you happiness, the worlds richest people would be the happiest people, but we all know that is not the case at all. True security must be found in something that cannot be taken away. True security is only found in Jesus.

When we covet things, we prioritize possessions over people. We spend more than we have, and buy more than we can pay for,  and then the stress of it all causes us to lose the real treasure right in front of us. Relationships are the greatest asset you have, and you can’t buy real relationships.

Some people try to buy their kids rather than relate to them. They try to over compensate for be absent by buying them extravagant gifts. It may seem to work on the surface, but ultimately, it does not. Your kids need your presence, not your presents.

Love people and use things, or else you are in danger of loving things and using people.

Giving is the antidote to coveting. Generosity breaks the back of coveting. Especially giving to those we think have more than us. He is enough. When you begin to remember that Jesus is enough, you won’t want other peoples stuff.

Heaven is real. You are not in the land of the living going to the place of the dying, you are in the land of the dying going to the place of the living, and this life is simply training for reigning in that life.

Here are some eternal things:

  • 1. Words.
  • People. We are not natural being having a temporary spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a temporary natural experience.
  • Relationships. Not every relationship in this life will last all of this life, but your investment in it can be eternal.
  • Prayers.
  • Giving. Money is not eternal, but your giving is.

“While we do not look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen. For the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal,” (2 Corinthians 4:18, NKJV).

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07.23.2017 – Ps. Duane White – Timeless Ten Pt. 9

This Sunday, July 23rd, 2017, Pastor Duane White unpacked an amazing message on our series Timeless Ten here at The Bridge Church in Denton, TX.

Timeless Ten: How to Hold the Truth

“You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor,” (Exodus 20:16, NKJV).

An ad for an electrician was put out stating they were looking for electricians who were skilled and had experience working with sontag connectors. 170 ppl applied for the job, but the funny thing is, there is no such thing as a sontag connector. The research company was trying to determine how many people would lie on an application to get a job.

Every teacher knows that parents will fight teachers all day long declaring boldly that “my little Johnny never lies!”, even though they were caught red handed. One discerning teacher sent a note home saying: “If you promise not to believe everything little Johnny says happens at school, I will promise not believe everything he says happens at home.”

Reality is, we live in a world of truth decay.

 

The 9th commandment is basically: “Tell the truth, but especially concerning other people.”

God cares about all His kids, and He cares about what all his kids are saying to each others about all of His other kids. Lies and rumors spoken about somebody can devastate and even ruin people’s lives and reputation.
Here are seven things the Lord hates:

  1. A proud look
  2. A lying tongue
  3. Hands that shed innocent blood
  4. A heart that devises wicked plans
  5. Feet that are swift in running to evil
  6. A false witness who speaks lies
  7. And one who sows discord among brethren
    (Proverbs 6:16–19, NKJV)

Actually The entire Bible is very strong in warning us about false testimony.
You can see it in three major categories:

  1. Gossip
  2. Slander
  3. Flattery

“…being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; they are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents,” (Romans 1:29-30).

POEM ON GOSSIP
My name is gossip
I have no respect for justice
I make without killing
I break hearts and ruin lives
I’m cunning and malicious
and gather strength with age
The more I am quoted, the more I am believed
I flourish at every level of society
My victims are helpless
They can not protect themselves against me,
because I have no face
To track me down is impossible
The harder you try the more elusive I become
I am nobody’s friend.
Once I tarnish a reputation,
It can never be the same.
I topple governments,
wreck marriages and ruin careers.
I cause sleepless nights and heartaches,
I spawn suspicion and generate grief.
I make innocent people cry on their pillows.
Even my name hisses… gossssssssip.

What is gossip? Gossip is hearing something you like about someone you don’t like. It is also the speedy transmission of near factual information.
Passing on information about someone, even if factual, knowing it will damage their reputation and/or make them look bad in the hearers ears.

It’s not the things that go in one ear and out the other that causes the most damage, but rather that which goes in one ear and gets all jumbled up and comes out the mouth.

Gossip travels fastest through grapevine that is at least slightly soured. We even call gossip “Juicy”.

When someone begins a conversation with: “I probably shouldn’t tell you this,” your reply should be “Ok, then please don’t!”

“A perverse man spreads strife, And a slanderer separates intimate friends,” (Proverbs 16:28).

Slander is malicious untruth, with the intention of doing harm. Insinuation makes a statement to lead you to believe something that is not true. It provides the building blocks and lets others construct the lie on their own.

Flattery is saying things to someone’s face that you would never say behind their back. Flattery is insincere praise.

Why do we do it? To get a promotion with our boss?  To get people to think more highly of yourself than they should?

Here are a few practical things to turn the tide and tame the tongue:

  • Examine our own heart. We lie to put our own interests above everything else including the truth, and out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.
  • Refuse to gossip.

“For lack of wood, the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, contention quiets down,” (Proverbs 26:20).

  • Verify the source. Honesty means everything you say must be true, not everything that is true must be said.
  • Know no one after the flesh. 

This commandment is not about censorship, but rather how to create a sense of community and healthy loving relationships that include discretion, and are built of trust and mutual respect.

In any community of people there are times we need to speak up about situations or circumstances that could be detrimental or harmful to others, but the key is to hold the truth in love. When love is the motivator, you only tell those who can resolve to bring healing and restoration to the situation. Saying anything to anybody else is gossip or slander.

Before you say anything negative to anybody about someone else, you should know that the answer is yes to these four questions:

  • Is it true?
  • Is telling this to this person bringing life to the situation?
  • Will it do anybody any good to say it?
  • Can this person help bring healing and restoration to the situation?

The truth is not factual information, the truth is greater than the facts.

“Wherefore henceforth know we no man after the flesh: yea, though we have known Christ after the flesh, yet now henceforth know we him no more,” (2 Corinthians 5:16, KJV).

“So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer,” (2 Corinthians 5:16, NIV).

It’s time for the taming of the tongue.

“Indeed, we put bits in horses’ mouths that they may obey us, and we turn their whole body. Look also at ships: although they are so large and are driven by fierce winds, they are turned by a very small rudder wherever the pilot desires. Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind. But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so,” (James 3:3-10, NKJV).

How are you doing with this tiny, potentially unruly member of the body?

Everybody has gossiped at one point or another, but what about right now? Have you been gossiping? Slandering? Fattering? Have you been speaking about people according to the flesh and not the spirit?

If so, simply repent, and ask God’s forgiveness and His grace to stop it. 

Everybody has gossiped but also, everybody has been hurt by gossip. If gossip has hurt or damaged you, have you forgiven the person?
Will you let God speak His truth to all those lies?

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07.16.2017 – Ps. Kris White – Timeless Ten Pt. 8

This Sunday, July 16th, 2017, Pastor Kris White unpacked an amazing message to continue our Timeless Ten series here at The Bridge Church in Denton, TX.

Timless Ten: You Shall Not Steal

“You shall not steal.” (Exodus 20:15)

Have you ever had something stolen from you? Did you feel violated, taken advantage, or did you have the desire for justice to prevail? When something is stolen from us, we are thankful for laws and retribution.

But, how would you feel knowing that it’s you that has done the stealing? Your excuse might be that they didn’t need it more than you did, or that you meant to give it back, or maybe you think, “They’ll never miss it.” It’s human nature to take and steal to please ourselves. What about that displeases God?

Think for a minute how the Ten Commandments can resemble the nature of God to us. God doesn’t lie. He doesn’t steal. He is faithful. 

Be encouraged in seeing the true nature and goodness of God in the Ten Commandments. It’s not just a list of rules to punish us and make life hard, but rather to bring freedom and peace and help Earth look like Heaven because we look like the Father.

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10, NKJ)

By giving us this standard, God is desiring us to look like Him, not like the enemy. Character can be defined as a moral force, or integrity. In other words, who you are when nobody is looking. This is who God sees when He looks at us. The Timeless Ten are beautiful because they make our character look like our Father’s character.

Stealing means to take something that belongs to another person. There are a number of different words used for stealing, including theft, robbery, burglary, shoplifting, defraud, embezzle, seize, poach, pick-pocket, hijack, plagiarize. Basically, there are a lot of ways to break this commandment. Our minds usually go to an image of an armed robbery, but let’s look at a few different aspects of trying to prosper through theft:

  1. Dishonesty – Don’t cheat people
    • “The Lord abhors dishonest scales, but accurate weights are His delight.” (Proverbs 11:1, NIV)
  2. Defrauding – Pay all that is owed
    • “Pay to all what is owed to them: taxes to whom taxes are owed, revenue to whom revenue is owed, respect to whom respect is owed, honor to whom honor is owed.” (Romans 13:7, ESV).
    • “Servants, do what you’re told by your earthly masters. And don’t just do the minimum that will get you by. Do your best. Work from the heart for your real Master, for God, confident that you’ll get paid in full when you come into your inheritance. Keep in mind always that the ultimate Master you’re serving is Christ. The sullen servant who does shoddy work will be held responsible. Being a follower of Jesus doesn’t cover up bad work.” (Colossians 3: 22-25, Message)
  3. Defaulting – Don’t fail to meet an obligation
    • “The wicked borrow and never repay, but the godly are generous givers.” (Psalm 37:21, NLT)

Here are some of the right ways to prosper in this commandment:

  1. Work
  2. Save
  3. Sowing or Giving
  4. Praying

Work is not just a four letter word. In Genesis 2:15, is says, “The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.” The dictionary is the only place where you will find success before work. God intends for us to work. That is not necessarily the same as having a job. Many hardworking people don’t get a wage, such as those who are stay-at-home parents. But they work.

“Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity, but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty.” (Proverbs 21:5)

The Bible is full of principles of work, saving and investing wisely, sowing/giving, and praying. Here are a few that you can study on your own:

  • Proverbs 14:23
  • Ephesians 4:28
  • Proverbs 21:20
  • Proverbs 3:9-10
  • Malachi 3:8-10
  • 2 Corinthians 8:7-8
  • 2 Corinthians 9:6-8
  • Matthew 6:11
  • Matthew 7:7

One final way to prosper in this commandment can be found in the story of Zacchaeus the tax collector in Luke 19:1-10. Upon meeting Jesus, Zacchaeus made restitution for everything that he had stolen. He made it right and asked forgiveness from the Savior. Guilt is the corrosion of the soul, and it can only be dissolved in the blood of Jesus.

Is there something you have stoled or need to make right with God or with others?

If we flip the script, what has been stolen from you? The Bible says the enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy. But the gifts and callings God has over your life are irrevocable. They cannot be stolen from you. Your destiny, your joy, you health, your hope, your salvation cannot be stolen by the enemy. While they can’t be stolen against your will, have you been so tired that you’ve given up the fight? Have you surrendered to his attacks? You do not have to sit in defeat. The devil has no authority over you. Choose to stand up and fight.

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07.09.2017 – Ps. Paul Brownback – Timeless Ten Pt. 7

 

This Sunday, July 9th, 2017, our guest speaker, Pastor Paul Brownback from The Abbey Church in Azel, TX, unpacked an amazing message in continuation to our Timeless Ten series here at The Bridge Church in Denton, TX.

Timeless Ten: “Affair-Proof” Your Relationships

“Do not commit adultery,” (Exodus 20: 14).

The definition of adultery can be explained as voluntary sexual intimacy between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband. In a better context, it could be defined as sexual intimacy outside of the bonds of covenant.

Our culture today has lost the understanding and value of Spiritual Covenant. A Covenant is a spiritual bond and union between individuals. It is a three-fold cord, of two humans and a spiritual being. God empowers, by giving grace, to the covenants that are made before Him.

The greatest source of sex mis-education in our culture is T.V. and movies. Very rarely on T.V. or film are sexual partners portrayed as husband and wife in a marriage relationship. In many films, there is a constant parade of seduction and suggestive sexual encounters. The image-makers surround it with laughter, music and sumptuous settings. It’s made to appear romantic, and exciting. But they brush away the deceit, betrayal and ugliness.

Sex outside marriage is seeking self-pleasure without the secure context of covenant commitment.

King David in the Bible is a classic example of this. He lusted after Bathsheba and within weeks his adultery had driven him to lie, scheme, plot and murder Bathsheba’s husband. David’s little indiscretion turned out to have vast repercussions.

Adultery, even when forgiven, leaves a scar.

“Can a man scoop fire into his lap and not be burned? So it is with the man who sleeps with another man’s wife,” (Proverbs 6 :27-29).

Playing with adultery is like playing with fire.

“Whoever commits adultery is an utter fool, for they destroy their own soul,” (Proverbs 6:32).

The betrayal of adultery causes deep wounds, shatters trust, and severs relationship. While marriage is about giving, adultery is about taking. Adultery denies love, degrades people, destroys families, defiles marriage, and defies God.

Jesus affirms this in scripture:

“God made them male and female. A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Since they are no longer two, but one, let no one separate them, for God has joined them together,” (Matthew 19:4-6).

Adultery invades the unity between two people, and God, in marriage.

You may be thinking, “I don’t need to hear this commandment. I haven’t committed adultery.” Adultery begins to play itself out on the stage of the imagination long before it occurs in real life.

“You have heard that it was said, do not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell,” (Matthew 5:27-29).

Jesus is saying, “Take Drastic Action.”

The problem is not in the eye, but in the heart. Jesus urges us to deal decisively and severely with radical spiritual surgery. Jesus called lust adultery in the heart, and if you encourage it with sexually stimulating films, books, magazines, or social settings, fantasy will turn into reality.

Here are four pointers to teach you how to affair-proof your marriage:

“An archaeologist is the best husband any woman can have. The older she gets, the more interested he is in her,” – Agatha Christie.

  1. Respect.
  2. Responsibility. 
  3. Romance.
  4. Resolve.
  5. Response. 

Love is built on the foundation of respect. 

  • Respect the Covenant of Marriage.
  • Respect your Partner.
  • Respect your own Weakness.

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers,” (1 Peter 3:7).

Here are some common vulnerabilities to both men and women when it comes to attending to each other:

  • Men are ego-driven. They want to be somebody’s hero as well as conquer a challenge and prove their inadequacies.
  • Women are security-driven. They want to hold somebody’s attention, and be somebody’s prize They want someone to prove their worth and value.

There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, for the simple reason that every marriage is the union of two imperfect people. A happy marriage is not so much about how compatible you are, but how you deal with your incompatibility.

The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together. Love is true, when you don’t see eye to eye, but can still walk hand in hand. Instead of attempting to alter one another, you need to understand one another.

Good Communication is hard work. It’s important that you spend time talking and listening to each other. There are five types of communication that can strengthen your marriage covenant:

  1. Small talk.
  2. Serious talk.
  3. Self talk.
  4. Soul talk.
  5. Sweet talk.

Here are the four hardest, and most important, statements to make in marriage:

  1. I was wrong.
  2. I am sorry.
  3. I don’t know.
  4.  I need help.

It’s important to use those four statements with each other, as they will build honesty in your Marriage.

“Each of you should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others, your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus,” (Philippians 2: 4–5).

Marriage and relationship problems are centered in selfishness and hard heartedness.

The question is not, “What’s in the marriage for me?”. It’s, “What has God anointed me to demonstrate of His character and nature in this marriage?”

 “When the Lord began to speak through Hosea, the Lord said to him, ‘Go, marry a promiscuous woman and have children with her, for like an adulterous wife this land is guilty of unfaithfulness to the Lord,’” (Hosea 1:2).

“The Lord said to me, ‘Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another man and is an adulteress. Love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they turn to other gods and love the sacred raisin cakes,” (Hosea 3:1).

The trouble with so many people who stand up for their rights, is that they fall down miserably on their responsibilities. Take responsibility.

If there was more courting in marriage, there would be fewer marriages in court.

Do you remember how tender and kind you two were to each other on dates when you began dating? You anticipated the date with excitement, and that’s the way you should be with each other when you are married.

“May you rejoice in the wife of your youth. May you ever be captivated by her love,” (Proverbs 5: 18–19).

There are several things that you should share with each other that are important between the two of you to flourish in your relationship:

  • Share adventures and experiences with each other. Go to new places, meet new people, share activities, and experience different cultures together.
  • Share victories with each other. Overcome threats and dangers together.
  • Share your serving together. Wether it is kingdom service, mission trips, church service, life groups, teaching or hosting something together.
  • Share secrets between each other. Have secret names for each other, have a secret language, verbal and non-verbal, share secret jokes with one another.
  • Share your fantasies with each other. Take turns planning date nights around your personal fantasies.

When you dated it was fun, make sure your marriage is fun.

A commitment is adherence to a decision that has already been made. Don’t wait to make the decision in the moment of temptation.

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? Guard yourself, remain loyal to your wife,” (Malachi 2:15).

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral,” (Hebrews 13:4).

Value your Marriage and prove your faithfulness to each other. Trying times are not the times to stop trying. In a marriage it is important to treat all disasters as incidents and none of the incidents as disasters.

The starting point is to admit we need God and His help because He created us and marriage. You may need restoration because things in your lives and marriages are broken and need to be fixed.

Are you in an adulterous relationship? End the relationship now. No more conversations, no more phone calls, no more meetings.

For about a year, King David tried to live with a guilty conscience. If he had admitted his adultery and repented straight away, the subsequent lies, and the murder of Bathsheba’s husband, would have been avoided.

 “When I kept things to myself, I felt sick deep inside me. I moaned all day long,”  (Psalm 32:3).

Do you need God’s forgiveness and healing for inappropriate relationships in the past?

Do you have addictions, like pornography, which need breaking?

Does your marriage need reviving?

Are you struggling with being single, a single parent, or being widowed?

Don’t make matters worse. Confession is better than cover-up. Repentance now, is better than revelations later.

 

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