This Father’s Day, Sunday, June 18th, 2017, Pastor Cody White unpacked an amazing message to continue our Timeless Ten series here at The Bridge Church in Denton, TX.
Timeless Ten: Honor Your Mother and Father
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.” (Exodus 20:12)
After the first three Commandments, God begins to show us how to deal with certain relationships in our lives. He begins with the family by saying that we should honor our Father and Mother.
“Honor your father and mother, this is the first commandment with a promise, that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” (Ephesians 6:2-3)
These verses do not necessarily mean that God is going to do something to you because you have chosen to dishonor your mother and father; but rather, it is because you have chosen to do something to yourself. Choosing to dishonor your parents can cause something to happen on the inside of you that will not sit well with you, and when you begin to carry this thing throughout your life, you won’t live long because it’s eating at you. That disdain for your parents will affect your living and your well-being.
“Jesus left that part of the country and returned with his disciples to Nazareth, his hometown. The next Sabbath he began teaching in the synagogue, and many who heard him were amazed. They asked, ‘Where did he get all this wisdom and the power to perform such miracles?’ Then they scoffed, ‘He’s just a carpenter, the son of Mary and the brother of James, Joseph, Judas, and Simon. And his sisters live right here among us.’ They were deeply offended and refused to believe in him. Then Jesus told them, ‘A prophet is honored everywhere except in his own hometown and among his relatives and his own family.’ And because of their unbelief, he couldn’t do any miracles among them except to place his hands on a few sick people and heal them.” (Mark 6:1-5)
Although this last verse states that Jesus could no longer do any miracles due to their unbelief, He still managed to heal a few sick people before he left.
There are two ways that the Bible defines honor. It can be defined as the Hebrew word kabod, which means glory, or weight, heavy, or to give weight to a person. It is also defined as the Hebrew word timao, which means a value by which the price is fixed. You give value to your Father and your Mother, but that value is not up for barter. We are supposed to give value to our Father and Mother, but what we do is we give them honor based on how much we are willing to say that they are worth.
You are meant to give your Father and your Mother value that is a fixed price. It is not open to negotiation. You do not have the right to lower the value.
The challenge to this is that we have constantly been fed a steady diet of dishonor by the movies, tv shows, and social media that we take part in. Everywhere you look they are dishonoring the father figure, and we’ve got to stop dumbing down Dad. If the enemy can distort your view of the father figure, then that is how you will see the Heavenly Father.
Here are a few principles of honor:
- Honor opens the door of access.
- Honor is freely given and not always earned.
- Honor is for those who bring order in our lives.
- Honor is put on display by listening and responding.
When you dishonor, you are choosing to shut yourself away from things that might be inside of people, and when you honor, you might unlock something inside of them that you have never seen before. What would happen if you choose to honor your mother and father? You might unlock something that you have never seen them do before. You will never know if you continue to dishonor.
We honor because we want to be honorable.
“For we do not preach ourselves, but Christ Jesus the Lord, and ourselves your bondservants for Jesus’ sake. For it is the God who commanded light to shine out of darkness, who has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ. But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellence of the power may be of God and not of us.” (2 Corinthians 4:5)
“Again, the kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field, which a man found and hid; and for joy over it he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field.” (Matthew 13:44)
There was a treasure in the field; but not only did the man purchase the treasure, he purchased the field too. We all have treasure inside of us, but we also have a lot of dirt too. We can’t just honor the treasure; we must honor people for all of their dirt too. You can’t get hung up on all the dirt and miss the treasure. We are called to honor the whole field.
God loved us despite our dirt and our mess. We can’t dishonor someone despite all of their dirt.
“Honor is when we value someone for who they are without stumbling over who they are not.” -Bill Johnson
If you want the promise that comes with this Commandment, you have to choose to accept all of the dirt that comes with them. When you choose to honor the field, you get the treasure. Then you thank God for the treasure that lies within them. You can find treasure in anyone.
If it is hard to honor someone, then God will give you the grace to honor them. We are called to honor those to whom honor is due. We are called to bring honor to those who bring order to our lives.
You will never honor if you choose to never forgive. You have to find the treasure in the midst of your parents dirt. You are called to honor.
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